As women, we weaken our own strength (in ways men never do) at work, at home, during moments in between. Sorry is more than just one, little, reflex word. So, why are women always apologizing? Of course, sometimes it is it’s polite to say “sorry”, but more often than not it is a reflex for everything. Let’s change that!
Like the FastCompany article states, sorry is not always the most appropriate word choice. “Apologizing unnecessarily puts women in a subservient position and makes people lose respect for them, says executive coach and radio host Bonnie Marcus. […] Sometimes, “sorry” is just a verbal tic, but some usage patterns may indicate a situation or person who makes you feel insecure, she says. Being aware of those triggers and how they influence your language can help you be more vigilant in “changing your communication so you’re coming from a position of strength and equality.”
As a girl with tattoos, I couldn’t agree with this more. #preach Tattoos are personal things, and each holds a different meaning to the person whose skin it’s on. My body is my canvass, not yours. After reading this post from Ella on Thought Catalog, I wanted to share it because she states so eloquently why tattoos and women are what they are. It just goes to show that you should really never judge a book by it’s cover.
1. Asking us what they mean is a great way to get to know us— but it’s probably best to make sure we’re already a little comfortable with you before asking us to spill the beans. Tattoos are personal things, and each holds a different meaning to the person whose skin it’s on. We’re happy to tell you what exactly each thing means to us — and trust me, even the smallest and seemingly pointless tattoos are often riddled with meaning — but to ask because you feel it’s your right is a step too far. If it’s deeply personal, we don’t have to tell you. Please respect that.
2. Just because we have a few in the spots you think are wild and crazy doesn’t mean we’re wild and crazy. Tramp stamps, hipbones, rib ink — whatever trend you think says something about us, probably really only means one thing:
This is something that just needed to be shared. Over the years, a few of my friends has also been getting really into Thought Catalog articles which I love! I wanted to share this because I know there are still a lot of you out there who don’t size the opportunity to appreciate and read a Thought Catalog article unless it comes across your docket. So, check this out.
I want this to be less about writing, and more about the message. Honestly, skip right to the video. A little background on the advertisement, Pantene came up with an innovative and interesting ad that talks about labels and stereotypes. The ad is catchy and powerful. The new Pantene commercial, “Label Against Women”, has gone viral on social networking sites.
“This is one of the most powerful videos I have ever seen illustrating how when women and men do the same things, they are seen in completely different ways. Really worth watching. Lean In prize of the day for sure,” said Sandberg adding, “Congratulations to Marc Pritchard and the Pantene team and Andrew Robertson and the BBDO team.”
I opened an email this morning that was entitled: Meet 3 successful women in fields dominated by men. That alone made me want to read this article. I had so many questions: who are these women, what fields did they work in, and what made them successful? Check it out, it’s well worth the read. Let me leave you with the opening lines, if this doesn’t make you want to read this– nothing will.
Following a dream often takes a healthy dose of courage—and a giant leap of faith. These three women have broken down barriers and rattled glass ceilings in fields typically run by the boys. They have a secret to share: You can do it, too!