working on a deadline

Under pressure, under a deadline, under the gun- all of these phrases are encompassing the feeling I have when I am facing a deadline. Some people work better and deliver their best results when they are facing a deadline. More often than not, I do not fall into that category. Working under pressure can make you anxious, and bring out nerves that you didn’t even think were possible, but it can also make you see in a different light, make you focus and work ten times harder. Everyone has their own way to work. Matt tells us about his experience with working on deadlines and why that is invigorating to him.

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time’s up

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As a journalist, working on a deadline has been engrained into my mind since Day 1. I do everything on a deadline. It’s actually funny that I’m writing this blog because Kendal Ann asked me to write this over a month ago so I’m past my deadline when it comes to writing about deadlines. Irony at its finest my friends.

Anyways, back to being on deadline. For me, I love having a deadline. It gives me an idea of what I need to get done and when I need to get it done by. It also allows me to procrastinate on things until the end when I know they really need to be done. Working on a deadline doesn’t make me nervous as it can do to other people; it makes me focus even harder on the task at hand. Working on a deadline makes it easier for me to get the job done correctly the first time without having to worry about little mistakes that pop up along the way.

Even though this blog took me longer to write, I still feel like writing on a deadline isn’t just an important thing to respect in my career, it’s an important thing to respect in life as well. Being on time is such a good habit to have. It’s something that I’m known for. I hate being late. If I show up on time, I feel like I am late, so more than likely, I’m 15 minutes early for everything. It’s just a habit that I’ve developed. My Mom is the same way. I probably got that from her.

In my mind, working on a deadline and being on time go hand-in-hand. Both are not only important career guidelines but also important life guidelines as well. So next time you have a meeting, leave a little bit earlier so you can show up and make a statement instead of just being average and being on time. Set deadlines for yourself with little things around the house and work your way up to setting bigger deadlines to follow once you accomplish the little deadlines. You’ll enjoy life a lot more, I’ll tell you that.

chivalry

is it dead?

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Let me give you a little history on chivalry and the chivalric code.

Chivalry, or the chivalric code, is the traditional code of conduct associated with the medieval institution of knighthood. Chivalry arose from an idealized German custom. Over time its meaning has been refined to emphasize more ideals such as the knightly virtues of honor, courtly love, courtesy, and less martial aspects of the tradition.

The Knight’s Code of Chivalry was a moral system that stated all knights should protect others who can not protect themselves, such as widows, children, and elders. All knights needed to have the strength and skills to fight wars in the Middle Ages; they not only had to be strong but they were also extremely disciplined and were expected to use their power to protect the weak and defenseless.

Knights vowed to be loyal, generous, and “of noble bearing”. Knights were required to tell the truth at all times and always respect the honor of women. Knights not only vowed to protect the weak but also vowed to guard the honor of all fellow knights. They always had to obey those who were placed in authority and were never allowed to refuse a challenge from an equal. Knights lived by honor and for glory. Knights were to fear God and maintain His Church. Knights always kept their faith and never turned their back on a foe.

Now we describe chivalry as:

having the qualities of chivalry, as courage, courtesy, and loyalty; valiant.
considerate and courteous to women; gallant.
gracious; generous, esp. toward the less fortunate.

I would argue that most people think the days of gentleman, knights in shining armor and chivalry are dead; however, I don’t think that’s the case at all. Sure I believe in equal rights, but it’s not about that (which is usually the argument). If you are going out on a date (with a new person or your current one) there still needs to be respect. There should still be excitement. “Woo-ing” should still happen. A few of my friends are back in the dating game, and they think it is absolutely preposterous that I tell them the man should pay on the first date. In my opinion, of course he should. He should be trying to impress you and most of all he should be a gentleman. You get the first one and I will pay for the one after that.

I was brought up to expect “gentlemanly” behaviors and manners: Men open doors for women, men walk on the street-side of the sidewalk, and men always pay for dates. Now let me tell you, I have snatched up a fellow who does all (and more) of these things. Ladies, there is still hope–they’re out there. When a check comes, I always offer to pay which he takes me up on every once in a blue moon, but more often than not declines politely.

As our modern lives may have changed and so has chivalry. With that it has also changed what we expect, and know we deserve. Chivalry is not dead. The definition has simply changed. Maybe I am a hopeless romantic, because I uphold men to the “good ol’ boy” standards of generations past.

What are your thoughts? Is it dead? How has it changed? What makes it different now?