think twice about that #selfie

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Everyone does it. It doesn’t matter how it’s done either. Do you have a phone, a laptop, iPad, mp3 player? If the answer is yes, then you are good to go.

Selfie Syllabification: sel·fie NOUN (plural selfies), informal
Definition: A photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically one taken with a smartphone or webcam and shared via social media: occasional selfies are acceptable, but posting a new picture of yourself everyday isn’t necessary.

Selfies are a craze that is taking over the world. Crazes always venture into our lives at inappropriate times, but resist the urge! Just like the Harlem Shake, planking, flash mobs, tombstoning, Tebowing or the cinnamon challenge, there’s a time and place for them, and these certainly were not them. They’re just so ridiculously awkward and for many, just so, so inappropriate. It is one thing to take photos to document places you visit and it’s another to show your respect if those places have a deeper meaning and rank high as an emotional location (graveyard, funerals, weddings, etc.). Are places that have deeper meaning to you or others “deemed” as inappropriate places to snap a selfie? You can of course, argue both sides of the spectrum, but at the end of the day, the untimely selfie is classless.

The topic of public selfies came up when I read the article, Selfies in Auschwitz – And Why It’s Wrong. The writer, from National Memo, takes a deeper look into inappropriately snapped selfies. The article says, “I understand this is not exactly a federal crime. And yes, I get that people take pictures of themselves in order to place themselves in a context. It is a way of saying, ‘I was there.’ Nothing wrong with that. I’ve done it myself.” Are selfies such a craze that it is taking the world by storm? Are selfies a thing to this day and age or do we see them slowly disappearing like Pokemon cards?

I believe snapping a selfie of you happy-go-lucky at some sacred place; it diminishes the place and sends a message that has become the norm “this is all about me.” And you know what? It isn’t. We are in the “selfie era” and we need to teach our peers, parents, grandparents and the next generation the proper etiquette the selfie.

I bet next time you will think before you take a selfie, because there are websites devoted to inappropriate selfies. So, will you have your guar​d up next time you take a selfie in public?

chivalry

is it dead?

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Let me give you a little history on chivalry and the chivalric code.

Chivalry, or the chivalric code, is the traditional code of conduct associated with the medieval institution of knighthood. Chivalry arose from an idealized German custom. Over time its meaning has been refined to emphasize more ideals such as the knightly virtues of honor, courtly love, courtesy, and less martial aspects of the tradition.

The Knight’s Code of Chivalry was a moral system that stated all knights should protect others who can not protect themselves, such as widows, children, and elders. All knights needed to have the strength and skills to fight wars in the Middle Ages; they not only had to be strong but they were also extremely disciplined and were expected to use their power to protect the weak and defenseless.

Knights vowed to be loyal, generous, and “of noble bearing”. Knights were required to tell the truth at all times and always respect the honor of women. Knights not only vowed to protect the weak but also vowed to guard the honor of all fellow knights. They always had to obey those who were placed in authority and were never allowed to refuse a challenge from an equal. Knights lived by honor and for glory. Knights were to fear God and maintain His Church. Knights always kept their faith and never turned their back on a foe.

Now we describe chivalry as:

having the qualities of chivalry, as courage, courtesy, and loyalty; valiant.
considerate and courteous to women; gallant.
gracious; generous, esp. toward the less fortunate.

I would argue that most people think the days of gentleman, knights in shining armor and chivalry are dead; however, I don’t think that’s the case at all. Sure I believe in equal rights, but it’s not about that (which is usually the argument). If you are going out on a date (with a new person or your current one) there still needs to be respect. There should still be excitement. “Woo-ing” should still happen. A few of my friends are back in the dating game, and they think it is absolutely preposterous that I tell them the man should pay on the first date. In my opinion, of course he should. He should be trying to impress you and most of all he should be a gentleman. You get the first one and I will pay for the one after that.

I was brought up to expect “gentlemanly” behaviors and manners: Men open doors for women, men walk on the street-side of the sidewalk, and men always pay for dates. Now let me tell you, I have snatched up a fellow who does all (and more) of these things. Ladies, there is still hope–they’re out there. When a check comes, I always offer to pay which he takes me up on every once in a blue moon, but more often than not declines politely.

As our modern lives may have changed and so has chivalry. With that it has also changed what we expect, and know we deserve. Chivalry is not dead. The definition has simply changed. Maybe I am a hopeless romantic, because I uphold men to the “good ol’ boy” standards of generations past.

What are your thoughts? Is it dead? How has it changed? What makes it different now?