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The world is a scary place right now. It takes courage to turn on the news and open a newspaper. I received an email recently with the subject line: When the news is too much and before opening it, I knew exactly what it was going to be about. Let me share my friend’s words with you.


I truly don’t know what to do in a world where every other day there is story of a black person being brutally murdered by the police. Like when will it stop! I feel like I could never have kids bc what might happen to them. It’s not like there aren’t other tragedies in the world that affect me, but Damn this is messed up.

As you all are some of my closest friends who aren’t black, it would really mean a lot to me to know that you aren’t standing in silence in the face of these kinds of racial injustice. Maybe it’s not everyone’s thing to get on Facebook. But I hope you are paying attention to the conversations and actions of non POC I your classrooms, workplaces, neighborhoods and governments. And I pray that you speak and vote against apathy and hate of any kind when you have the opportunity.

Don’t let me being one of your close black friends make you feel that I don’t have any skin in the game. This affects me… Deeply. And I don’t want to pretend it doesn’t any longer with you all. And I don’t want to feel like I need to be silent about these things when we’re together bc I don’t want to offend anyone.

I’m not accusing anyone if not being supportive, I’m just asking for your support. And I’m encouraging you not to just do so behind closed doors.

Maybe this isn’t the most eloquently written email, but I just needed to reach out and get it off my chest. I love you all too much to pretend I don’t need your friendship and support.

Your heart breaks just reading this. How can’t it?  I was crying after reading this, and after writing my respond. It took me so much longer than I wanted to formulate a coherent response. Waking up every morning to see such tragedies at our doorstep is no way to live. We need to find answers.
It hurts me to see violence and racism are ongoing issues in my backyard and all over the world. It saddens me that every time we take one steps forward it seems that we take three steps back. Like others, I agree that social media can only be pushed so far, but what is there to be done? What can I do that will truly allow my voice to be heard? I want my actions to be seen. I want my voice heard. I want everyone to know that this way of life and cohabiting is not okay, just or the world we came into.

Friend, I have endless conversations with friends, family and coworkers about our on going tragedies and what can be done. Like you, one thing that hurts the most is bringing a child into the world (though it will be years from now) it’s something that affects all of us. How can you bring a child into the world right now? How can you raise a child to understand hate is not the answer? How would anyone not be worried each second apart that they’re from their child?

Dear, I thank you for volunteering and for giving us the opportunity to sign up as well. I did, and I hope this is a start for a great change. We need to create a positive change. We need to show people and not just tell people. After all, actions speak louder than words.

She said it best, I am here for you and sorry I haven’t had these conversations with you. I am standing next to you to fight this fight. Please let me know what I can do. I will be by your side until the end.

All my love.
Friends, I challenge you all to read what is going on in the news. Talk about what is happening in the world. Figure out how you can be the change. Don’t just talk about it, make a plan and follow through. If we want change, we need to be the people acting on it.

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