For those of you who know me, know I am rather strong in my faith and firm in my convictions. For those of you who don’t it’s something you now know, and something you will come to admire about me. After officially moving to DC (for good) I have been testing out different Parishes. It’s really hard. Trying something should be fun and an enjoyable experience, but to me this is stressful and the opposite of fun.
Cat’s out of the bag, I’m Catholic. I like going to mass. I enjoy the camaraderie that mass and the church brings you. I went to Catholic school until I was in the 6th grade. IN 6th grade I began public schooling and I transitioned into going to CCD (Continuing Catholic Development) classes until Confirmation (in the 11th grade). It was really hard to make this transition, until I realized that now as a public school kid I don’t go to mass two times a week, and all of my Wednesday nights will be booked. It was an easy change to get use to, but looking for a church on your own is not.
Looking for a church is really hard. I have been to so many churches in my day that I want all of the aspects that I like to be bundled up together, and put in one. I understand that is a really far-fetched idea, and probably will never happen. I understand that everything won’t always turn out how we want it to. I’ve realized I am asking too much, but now after making a list my expectations are not too high. I don’t want to feel like a tourist and not welcome when I go to mass to celebrate. I want to feel at home and at ease.
I made a list of things that are important to me when finding a church, and hopefully I will find the perfect fit soon. I have three to-go and I have a great feeling about this.
Things that matter to me:
1. the size of the church
2. the type of worship/mass and the service structure (I know this seems like a strange one because Catholics are Catholic— well sort of, but everyone chooses to worship differently. I was raised in a very traditional setting and most churches are going the modern route.)
3. Outreach to parishioners
Sure, it’s a hard quest especially when you are in it “alone”. But along the way I have learned, there is no perfect church. I usually need to visit a church a few times before making a solid decision. And above all, I cant give up. I know I have to keep searching until I find the right fit. Sidebar, if there are any Catholics in the DC area reading this, I would love to hear where you attend mass.